Motley Crue-Sixx A.M. bassist Nikki Sixx created a shitstorm yesterday when he opined about Michael Jackson being a pedophile. Since a childhood friend grew up to be one, I have a few thoughts on the matter.
It all started with Sixx sending off a few tweets about how Michael Jackson was a child rapist. A lot of angry comments on his Facebook page followed, with some suggesting Sixx was drinking and drugging again. To that, he replied:
10 YEARS SOBER,FATHER OF 4,MULTIPLE BUSINESSES,SUCCESSFUL IN ALL MY VENTURES ( MOTLEY,SIXX AM,SIXX SENSE,PHOTOGRAPHER & ROYAL UNDERGROUND.) HOW DARE YOU INSULT ME BY SAYING I AM ON DRUGS OR DRINKING FOR HAVING AN OPINION ABOUT A CREEP FUCK WHO IN MY OPINION RAPED CHILDREN. LAST I CHECKED WERE IN AMERICA, AND I AM NKKI SIXX OF MOTLEY CRUE AND DONT TAKE ORDERS FROM NOBODY. READ MY BOOKS,LISTEN TO THE LYRICS.
So, a couple of points:
–Those familiar with this blog know I’m a huge Motley Crue fan and that Nikki Sixx’s openness about his demons inspired me to out my own demons in this blog.
–Despite my love for the band, I don’t agree with everything they do.
Now that I got that out of the way…
This whole back and forth has been a fascinating case study in human nature. I find it amusing that people were tearing Michael Jackson down in the last decade of his life because of his alleged pedophilia, yet, when he died, everyone magically forgot that stuff and acted as if Jesus Himself had been crucified again.
We do that a lot when famous, tarnished figures die. We play up the good stuff they did and conveniently forget the bad stuff. Or, at least, we minimize the latter as some unfortunate little interlude between the acts of greatness. Richard Nixon comes to mind.
Michael Jackson was human. He did a lot of good from a musical and charitable level. But he had a sickness. How deeply that involved pedophilia I really don’t know. I only know the charges he faced.
Nikki Sixx is human. He used to be a drug addict with all the selfish, destructive, hurtful behavior that goes with it. He’s written about that period of his life at great length and with deep honesty.
I know I’m human. I’ve done a lot of good things and a lot of stupid things. You can read about both here.
We all have opinions some will inevitably find offensive. But we have things like Twitter and Facebook now. We can just fart out our thoughts and send ’em out for the world to see. That makes it a far different world from the one many of us grew up in. Our filter is off. Or, you could say, the safety is off our shotgun mouths.
Personally, I wasn’t offended by Sixx’s comments. I essentially agree with him.
But I also think something like pedophilia is more complicated than the more clear-cut outrages. It’s a sickness, an addictive behavior. I thank my lucky stars that my addictions were based on binge-eating, alcohol and the pills I used to take for chronic back pain.
Sixx’s behavior manifested itself in heroin and a variety of other substances.
Fate could have sent our addictions in a much more evil direction.
I’ve done a lot of soul searching about this because of the childhood friend who went on to be a thrice-convicted pedophile. His record is on the Internet for all to see. I guess I kept his name out at first because, believing as I do that NOBODY is beyond redemption, I wanted to give him a chance to get on with his life.
That was my mood when I wrote The Pedophile, Part 1.
Then I saw him friending scores of teenage girls from remote parts of the globe on Facebook and my heart and mood hardened. So I wrote this follow-up.
I revealed his name in part 3 because, after some thinking, I realized that once convicted, and once you become a high-level sex offender, your right to privacy is gone. You are a danger and people need to know you lurk the streets.
Bottom line for me: Addictive behavior takes control of a person and makes them do things they know to be wrong. But when you’re caught in the vice grip, you do it anyway. You are essentially possessed by the devil.
But even though we all get a shot at redemption, certain behaviors are simply too dangerous to be tolerated.
A pedophile preys on innocent children.
The only solution to that is to throw them in the slammer.
I think that the pedophile I once knew even understands that.