Let’s face it: We all have connections on Facebook that we constantly consider defriending because they say and do irritating things. I have no doubt there are people out there who feel that way about me.
I have no problem with people un-friending me. Not anymore, anyway.
At one point, I had to admit that my obsessive-compulsive demons were latching onto the Facebook friend count, and that each loss of a connection felt like a personal blow. My mind would spin endlessly about why someone felt the need to disconnect from me. Was it something offensive I did? Did I hurt someone or come off as a fake?
But I’ve come to see that sometimes it’s the right thing for a person to do. This blog covers a lot of heavy stuff. A lot of people have become daily readers and tell me my openness has inspired them to deal with their own issues. But for others, especially those with a lot of pain in their lives, every post is going to feel like a baseball bat to the head.
Then there’s the heavy volume of content that flows down my news feed, which can dominate the news feeds of people with a smaller number of connections.
I admit it: I can be very hard to live with in the House of Facebook. I’m the loud obnoxious guy who hogs the dinner table conversation.
But some of you are hard to live with, too.
— Some of you post a lot of bad music.
–Some of you complain about every little, stupid thing.
–Some of you blather on about all the big things you have going on, but you never seem to complete what you started.
–Some of you post way too many pictures of babies with food on their faces. I looove babies, but come on now.
–Some of you take self-portraits each morning with your cell phones, always from the driver’s seat of your car. That gets annoying.
–Some of you carry on with the same political whining all the time, to the point where it’s just a bunch of noise.
–Some of you can’t help but take a picture of your food. The problem is that practically no one cares what you’re about to put in your mouth.
–Some of you have fights with significant others where the rest of us can see it.
–Some of you get all lovey-dovey with your significant other where everyone can see it. That’s particularly gross.
–Some of you put up so many philosophical quotes that it all becomes a blur, just like the political whiners.
Is all that stuff worse than the things I do on Facebook? It’s all in the eyes of the beholder.
None of what I mentioned is all that bad, really. We’re all just being human.
We’ve all had to deal with difficult family members, friends and co-workers. That’s life.
In that sense, Facebook is just another mirror.
We all like to look at ourselves in the mirror, whether it’s to admire our new shoes or cringe over our girth.
But I’d like to think that most of us, despite the annoying things we do on here, are worth keeping around and even helping at times.
We’re one big dysfunctional family, and there’s a lot of fun in dysfunction if you know what to look for.
And if someone like me really gets to be too much to put up with, you know where the unfriend button is. No hard feelings.